Showing up for yourself can look different to each person, and it might even change over time – but it’s just basically another way of saying you love yourself, honoring yourself and being your own biggest supporter.
In other words, showing up for yourself is the ultimate form of self-care and self-advocation. It’s about making your needs a priority, whether it’s mental, emotional, physical or spiritual. It’s also important to note that unless you show up for yourself, you can’t fully show up for anyone or anything else.
I’ve been showing up for myself by setting aside time for my daily routines (like meditation and at-home workouts). Also getting lots of sunshine and filling my free time with things I love, like reading, cooking, eating, walking and catching up with friends. To me, showing up for yourself also includes saying NO to things that don’t serve you.
It took me a very long time to learn and understand what it means to show up for yourself, so don't expect it to be an overnight change for you. It involves a lot of trial-and-error but keep reading as I share some tips that worked for me. So you can eliminate a lot of the "error" part of things.
Here are 5 ways you can start showing up for yourself.
Notice how you talk to yourself
It’s important to be mindful of the way you talk to yourself. When you start to notice negative self-talk and judgments, try to make it constructive. It is incredibly important to be mindful of the language you use with yourself. Oftentimes, you are your own harshest critic.
Create daily affirmations
Creating and repeating daily affirmations and personal mantras throughout the day is a great way to give yourself a mental and emotional boost. It helps replace negative thoughts with strong, confident ones. Pick an affirmation that inspires and motivates you – or create one that makes you feel powerful and assured.
Write in a gratitude journal
This is one of the most recent things I have been adding to my daily routine. It's a great opportunity to dump all thoughts in the mind, without judgement. I would also suggest to include writing about all the things you are grateful for. When you focus on the good, the good gets better. Especially when you can literally see all the things you are grateful for in your life, it makes you feel so much better about that life.
Set aside time for yourself
Set aside time for yourself throughout the day to practice self-care. It’s important to take care of our inner minds, souls and bodies and reserve time for things that made you happy. It will be different for everyone. So don't try to do what you see others doing, do what brings you joy.
Be mindful to support your immune system
Mindfulness can be translated to present moment awareness. Meditating for even 5 minutes everyday can help reset your mind, mood and perspective. Meditation and breathing exercises can help slow down your heart rate, clear your mind and minimize the effects of stress and anxiety. Which all works to support your immune system. If meditating doesn’t work for you, there are lots of other ways to be mindful! Like taking a bath, reading, limiting screen time, eating healthy meals and repeating affirmations.